Why is it that if I am friends with a guy, everyone assumes I like him? Why can’t I have male friends? This has happened three times, now. Just because I hang out with someone doesn’t mean I have a crush on them. It’s the opposite. Being friends with a guy and talking to them is not my version of flirting. It’s actually staring at a crush in the distance and hoping they’ll make the first move. Friendship does not equal romantic love.